Humans like to place limits on everything. There is only so much of x,x,z to go around. For many this type of thinking leads to blaming others for thoughts, feelings, and beliefs. If everything is limited, then we can make excuses for our lacking. There is only one place to begin where we truly learn the abundance of this world and that starts with love. Love is truly unlimited, because it comes from our source -- G-d.
G-d will provide you with all the love you will ever need and beyond. Opening yourself up to G-d, to love, will help you begin your journey to discovering the ultimate unlimited resource.
When you love you allow yourself to let go of your ego. One of the best examples of this comes from loving your child. We love our children unconditionally and we express our love by helping them without expecting them to do for us. We love them by supporting them emotionally and financially. This type of love can help us truly understand the love our creator has for us.
What is love?
This is a question that some people may honestly have because it is possible that many have never truly experienced a healthy type of love. There are those who claim to love but in reality they can be abusive. There are those that seem to love but their love created a dependency, an unhealthy connection that sucked the life out of someone else and left a lot to be desired. There are those that say love is tolerating everything - including murder and rape; these are people who proclaim that you can never judge a person's behavior but this does not help anyone grow either.
Love is not about judging a person; this is true but judging a behavior is essential. If you love someone, you will tell them not to do destructive things. In the example of a parent-child relationship, a parent's job is to tell a child right from wrong -- that is an expression of love and in order to do that you must judge behavior as being right or wrong. If you have a friend that tells you they are going to rob a bank, you should tell them not to because you love them and do not want to see them go to prison for a long period of time.
Of course, even if your child does do something wrong or your friend does rob a bank, it does not mean you should stop loving them. If fact you should try to love them more. However, this does not mean you are required to hang around people who are immoral and do destructive things. Someone who truly loves must love themselves and loving yourself means watching out for yourself, being aware. The great thing about love is that you can do it from afar. Nobody even has to know how much you love them.
1 Corinthians 13:4-8:
4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. 8 Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away.
Tapping into love and giving love freely is what allows us to realize that we always have something to give others. It is always there for us to take and give.
Love also gives us power. When someone does something that you believe has wronged you somehow, you might get upset. You might react a number of ways. Your thoughts of anger can accumulate to a point where you allow yourself to do something stupid like seek revenge in some way. You will lash out and blame the person for causing you to react but what you really are doing is giving that same person that wronged you power over your thoughts and actions. When we allow others to make us angry, we stop the love-flow between ourselves and our creator - our source. That other person's wrongdoing, whatever it may be, cuts us off from the love we receive. We cannot receive love when we do not give love. So the question you must ask yourself is why would you allow someone else's problems to interfere with your love source from G-d?
When we think about it, it really does become silly because allowing others to dictate our reactions emotionally and even physically only hurts us even more, and at that point whatever the other person's wrongdoing was now becomes our own wrongdoing. You have the power to not allow that to happen. You have the power to walk away and allow that problem to become a blessing rather than a curse. Of course you do this though the power of love.
Love your family. Love your friends. Love your enemies. Love people you do not even know. Love until you feel you cannot love anymore and then love some more because love is unlimited. Love is there for you to receive and give freely. Love can be expressed by prayer or even positive thoughts and feelings towards others. Love is letting others live free. Love is being free from others as well. You become free from other people's problems and you become free by loving yourself and being responsible for yourself. Love is always something you have to give the world so never hold back unless you desire to hold yourself back.
Love helps neutralize your reactions to many situations that may come up in your life. There have been a few people I can think of that I felt truly wronged me but when I keep in mind that I should not allow them to interfere with my relationship with G-d, I am able to change my perspective of them and what they did. I start by realizing they are not perfect and that they did not owe me anything. Nobody "owes" you anything when you really think about it. Maybe what a person did was merely out of their own ignorance and that has nothing to do with me. In some cases, the person was actually mentally ill and being mad at them would not change anything because they simply could not grasp what I was upset about. I learned to understand that they simply were not evolved enough to know what they were doing. Knowing this allowed me to let go of any anger and neutralize my reaction to them. I realized I can let go of any bad feelings I was having as a reaction. Now, this didn't mean I had to go out of my way to do something kind for them like buy them a meal or take them on a vacation. No, not at all. It did mean I had to allow myself to find love in my heart, say a prayer for them and let go. It's all in G-d's hands now and I have found that by observing from a distance that He has a way of punishing all His own, much more effective than anything I could have come up with. I do not need to gloat or be happy about that; I merely understand that G-d does His work much like He will teach me a lesson when I do something wrong.
Love is how we connect with one another and it is how we learn from others. We all want to be loved but I have found that those who want the most love seem to be the first to cut off love from others whenever they are upset by someone else's words or actions. This is a big mistake. As with everything in this world, we must all learn to be the example that we expect of others. If we want to be loved, we must first love ourselves and others. When we take the first step, others will follow.
Make the commitment to love.
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